Most parents form close emotional connections with their children early on—but some parenting styles aim to deepen that bond intentionally. One such approach is attachment parenting, which encourages constant closeness and attentiveness to a child’s needs.
While attachment parenting has earned praise for fostering emotional security, it also raises concerns. Critics argue that it may promote over-dependence and strain on caregivers. Yet, many parents—including celebrities like Kourtney Kardashian—champion the method for the strong, nurturing ties it builds.
So what exactly is attachment parenting—and does it truly lead to healthier relationships?
What Is Attachment Parenting?
Rooted in the attachment theory introduced by psychologist John Bowlby in 1958, this parenting approach centers on the idea that children thrive emotionally when they feel secure and connected to a primary caregiver.
Dr. Mayra Mendez, a licensed therapist from Providence Saint John’s Child and Family Development Center, explains that attachment parenting emphasizes both physical closeness and emotional responsiveness, especially in infancy.
Core Practices of Attachment Parenting
Attachment parenting typically includes:
- Babywearing (keeping babies close in slings)
- Co-sleeping (sharing a bed or sleeping space)
- Extended breastfeeding (beyond one year)
- Prompt response to emotional or physical needs
- Open communication and shared activities as children grow
Dr. Robert Keder, a developmental behavioral pediatrician, adds that these practices provide a secure emotional base from which children can explore the world—and return to for comfort.
The Benefits of Attachment Parenting
When practiced with balance, attachment parenting can offer several advantages:
- Enhanced emotional intelligence and social skills
- Improved stress regulation and resilience
- Stronger parent-child communication
- A solid foundation for healthy relationships
The Potential Drawbacks
Despite its benefits, attachment parenting isn’t without controversy. Critics highlight several challenges:
- Children may become overly reliant on parents
- Parental burnout due to constant responsiveness
- Bed-sharing, while bonding, carries safety concerns per the American Academy of Pediatrics
- Pressure to breastfeed can cause guilt if not possible or preferred
- May delay development of independence and autonomy
Experts emphasize the importance of balance—nurturing strong bonds without limiting a child’s growth or overwhelming the parent.
Finding the Right Fit
Like most parenting styles, attachment parenting isn’t one-size-fits-all. Many families successfully adapt its principles while setting healthy boundaries that foster both closeness and independence.
The goal isn’t perfection, but connection—and that can look different for every family.
